• How to use

  1. Start with an Direct Observation (Using Observations) that you feel something about when you notice it

     • e.g. “I heard him say ‘You’re dumb’ while looking at me”

  2. Recognize what you’re feeling about that Direct Observation

     • e.g. “I feel sad”

  3. Ensure your description of what you’re feeling is a Pure Emotion

     • Remove

       These are non-emotions that create negativity in yourself and trigger defensiveness in others, which prevents them from hearing what you really mean

       • Actions
         • “I feel attacked”
       • Evaluations
         • “I feel like he’s an asshole”
       • Judgements
         • “I feel disrespected”
       • Telepathy
         • “I feel like he wants to hurt me”

     • Master

       • Pure Emotions

         1. An internal mental state that creates unpleasant or pleasant physical feelings

            Examples

            Suffering

            • Anger
              • Angry
              • Frustrated
              • Upset
            • Fear
              • Scared
              • Nervous
              • Uneasy
            • Sadness
              • Sad
              • Bad
              • Unhappy

            Fulfillment

            • Comfort
              • Comfortable
              • Relaxed
              • Calm
            • Happiness
              • Happy
              • Content
              • Blissful
            • Excitement
              • Excited
              • Enthusiastic
              • Aroused

  4. Now you have a Pure Emotion, which is the 2nd of 3 parts of a Situation

  5. Continue to Sharing Core Needs (3/3)

• How to train

  To gain experience and level up this skill, you can

  1. Explore a situation
     • Go through a past or current chat with someone
     • Watch a video, TV show, or movie
     • Listen to a song, podcast, or conversation
     • Talk to someone you trust
     • Talk to a new person
  2. Use this skill (after Using Observations ) whenever you
     • Notice yourself feeling comfort, discomfort, or any emotion
     • Think someone else is expressing comfort, discomfort, or any emotion

• Leveling up

  Your level is equal to the total number of checkboxes below that you can do in 80%+ of situations

  • Being able to quickly share your pure emotion in any situation with
    • [ ] Family
    • [ ] Friends
    • [ ] 2nd degree connections (friends of family, friends of friends, etc)
    • [ ] Totally new people
    • [ ] Authorities (parents, teachers, police, etc)

Core Skills

1. Using Observations
2. Expressing Pure Emotions
3. Sharing Core Needs
4. Creating Strategies
5. Making Effective Requests

Advanced Skills

1. Confirming Interpretations
2. Recognizing Needs
3. Expressing Gratitude
4. Receiving Gratitude

All CNC Skills

1. Using Observations
2. Expressing Pure Emotions
3. Sharing Core Needs
4. Creating Strategies
5. Making Effective Requests
6. Recognizing Needs
7. Confirming Interpretations
8. Expressing Gratitude
9. Receiving Gratitude