How to use
1. Start with the first 2 parts of a Situation
  - Using Observations
    - e.g. “I heard him say ‘You’re dumb’ while looking at me”
  - Expressing Pure Emotions
    - e.g. “I feel sad”
2. Think of what you’re needing right now
  - e.g. “I need confidence”
3. Make sure you’re describing it as a pure need
  - Remove
    
    You can get past these by asking “What would getting this allow for me?” repeatedly, until you reach your emotional need or core need
    - Strategy
      - “I need to get away from here“
    - External references
      
      These force an emotional dependence on something or someone
      - “I need you”
  - Master
    - Psychological needs
      - Freedom
        
        To be able to do what I want
        
        To make my own decisions
        
        To know things will be okay
      - Connection
        
        To be heard/understood/accepted
        
        To relate/connect with people
        
        To have & share moments with others
      - Growth
        
        To build and create
        
        To learn and improve
        
        To grow as a person
4. Now you have a Core Need, which is the 3rd of 3 parts of a Situation
<aside> 💡 From here, if you have all 3 parts of the Situation, then depending on what you want to do, you can continue to
- Creating Strategies
- Expressing Gratitude
- Share your Situation with the intention of connecting </aside>
How to train

To gain experience and level up this skill, you can
1. Explore a situation
  - Go through a past or current chat with someone
  - Watch a video, TV show, or movie
  - Listen to a song, podcast, or conversation
  - Talk to someone you trust
  - Talk to a new person
2. Use this skill (after Using Observations and Expressing Pure Emotions ) whenever you
  - Notice yourself feeling comfort, discomfort, or any emotion
  - Think someone else is expressing comfort, discomfort, or any emotion
Leveling up

Your level is equal to the total number of checkboxes below that you can do in 80%+ of situations
- Being able to quickly share your core need in any situation with
  - [ ] Family
  - [ ] Friends
  - [ ] 2nd degree connections (friends of family, friends of friends, etc)
  - [ ] Totally new people
  - [ ] Authorities (parents, teachers, police, etc)

Core Skills

Advanced Skills